Madcaljan21’s Blog

Now it is summer time and I have developed habit of going to the  park with my daughter, so that she can have fun time. yesterday was one such trip to park and a memorable one for me. She was playing with swing , slides, discovering all the fun that monkeys would have in the play area. She also tried to climb a rock with the help of her daddy totally leaning on him and having smile of achieving something great. Next she came over to play on the sand. There was this interesting thing happened. There was one Asian boy about 4 years old standing there and protecting a small plant as if it was his territory. There were other kids and they never noticed him and never went near him. Now there is my daughter who found something interesting about the boy, looked at him, gauged him, took a handful of sand and went near him. He immediately reacted saying “No”. She came back to me and told me that the boy said No to her. I asked her to leave the place and play somewhere else. She did not listen to me as usual. She wanted to do something about it since he told no to her. She took another handful of sand, took continuous breadth as if she was going to fight, staring at him in wrath. She took slow steps still staring at him, the boy was totally in defending state. He had this shovel and tried to stop her hand. But she somehow managed to put the sand on the plant. Immediately the boy was trying to wipe the sand out. She came back with smile on her face. I thought she was going to play something else. But she did this again and again, dumping sand on the plant. The boy was shouting No, she was shouting no, but still she managed to dump the sand on the plant pushing his shovel. The boy could not do anything , other than leaving the plant. Finally the territory was captured by her.

Have you ever dreamt of sleeping besides an Octopus. I will narrate few things that may happen when you do so. Octopus has eight legs or rather you can call them hands as they don’t mind if we do so. One of the hands will be pulling our hair, one will be busy plucking eyebrows, one trying to open our eyes and poke into it. One will be drilling in our ears trying to get some gold. Other will be busy exploring our nose and blocking the path of air making us pant for breath. Other will force open our mouth and kindle eaten foods through the passage. Other may be poking, kicking all over our body, trying to hurt us as far as possible. Now do you think I really have an experience sleeping with an Octopus, no definitely not. But I have a pretty much similar experience sleeping  by my 2 years old daughter who just have 2 hands and 2 legs, but does all that I have mentioned earlier and who motivated me to write this blog.  I wrote another blog about terrible twos , but I think I may end up writing a novel describing all the activities that she started  doing exactly one month before her 2’nd birthday and will have whole 11 months of fun…

I have heard of parents lamenting about the age 2. I have never understood this until couple of months back when my own daughter started showing off the signs of this. OMG it is really tough to make them understand things as they feel they know everything and they can start doing things on their own. My daughter wants to eat on her own, wants to bathe herself, wants to sit on the car seat on her own, likes to walk without holding my hands. But none of this she does perfectly afterall she is just 2, but when I insist helping her she would never accept it. Even better she would say ” Dukka nillu!! ( Durga stop) ‘, oh what a feeling. Couple of days back, she was sitting on the driver seat and she wants to turn the key on, when I stopped her from doing this, she was shouting as well as crying saying ” Dukka killi vitta , sorry cheppu ( Durga you tried to pinch me , say sorry)”. I was shocked, she never let me off, finally I said sorry and she came to me. I now know the perfect reason of calling this terrible twos.   When I take her to park , she would slide upside down , almost resembling our ancestors. I could not find a difference between the activities of my daughter and a monkey on discovery channel.

One day I was watching animal planet and watched a dog trainer. When she says quiet the dog stops, when she stays stand the dog stands. The dog does whatever she instructs it to do. I want to try this to her just for fun. I looked at her and said in ofcourse a polite way ” Manasa can you stand”, she did not even turn her head towards me. I raised my voice and repeated , now she looked at me ( a sense of satisfaction) , she asked me ” mm..”. I repeated again , this happened for couple of times. Finally she said ” No ma.. I’m playing!!”. I was shocked, this she could have said the first time. :(.

Everytime when I try to feed her, she will go fetch the remote ask me to switch on the tv. She will not open her mouth until her favourite cartoon character appears on the screen. Even after that she would  say with wierd face ” mamam nallala ( food is not good)”. 😦

Its really tough to engage her for some activity , she keeps wandering around, everytime some negotiation will have to happen. Potty training is a terrible I will ever have. You will not believe , I will be reading the full encyclopedia to her, when she is sitting on the potty. I would show all the pictures , sing songs, tell stories, she would listen all those and get off after the show is over, as if she was watching some kids movie.  I would feel my base is almost not there at all. It would be so numb after sitting for such a long time :).

While dressing she would ask me if that is Dora’s dress. If I say yes she will wear it. If by chance I say no, she would run away. It would be very difficult to catch her, even catching the chicken would be much easier compared to this.

Hotel is the worst place you could ever imagine taking her. She will never ever sit on the chair designated to her. She would come and sit besides us, she would demand a plate spoon, a cup of water. She will be knocking at the plate, sip into the cup ( with a sound of rrrrrrrrr), sometime suck with a force and the water will enter her nose which leads to severe coughing, the entire hotel will look at us. Initially we were feeling bad, but nowadays we will ignore her and keep on eating as if she is not part of our family. When we start back home if we turn around and look at the table, it would look like mini war ground. But she does not care she will proceed to towards entrance like a motor boat with full speed without minding whatever comes in front of her.

Couple of days back we went to temple to celebrate her star birthday, it was a traditional way of celebrating. We went there making arrangements for the pooja, she started scanning the place to see what she can play and what she cannot. She also made namaskarams to all the idols at the temple. I was shocked of such a behavior, then realized she would have sought blessings for all the activities that followed next.Initially she was playing with some flowers and other stuffs. But as the time went she took a cup of turmeric powder, she was playing with it, blowing air into it. I wanted to change her dress , but she did not allow me to do that. Her whole body was yellow in color, no one went by without having a double glance at her. OMG I had to give her so many things to distract her off from the turmeric powder. Finally we had a treaty over banana, which she took in her hands, made paste and applied on her face as mask. We came back home , took her to bath tub and watched the water coming out in all colors.

So after all these experiences I would definitely say it is Terrible twos , but most terrible for parents.

My daughter first learnt to say my husband’s name. His name is raghu and she used to call him as “Aju”. That will be really sweet. I was trying to make her say my name, “Durga”. But it was very difficult for her . She would try , but would land up saying something else.  Three days back, my husband was teaching her to say my name and for the first time she said ” Duka”. Something, but atleast very close to my name. Like in terms of fuzzy logic in a scale of 1 to 10 , I would give it 7.  Then she did not call me very frequently.

Yesterday morning I got up first and was preparing for the breakfast. At around 8 ‘o’ clock I heard my sweet little 18 months old pumpkin calling me ” Duka.. Duka.. Duka.. munnin”.. which means :  ” Durga.. Durga.. Durga.. Good morning”. This did not stop, she did not call me as “Amma” but was just referring to my name for everything she needs. This continued till afternoon ” Duka.. Book”, “Duka.. Bufy ( Butterfly)”, ” Duka.. bawl ( Ball)” . Later that afternoon I was talking to my friend over phone. My daughter would never allow me to talk over phone. She was calling “Amma” for two to three times, when she noticed that I’m not going to listen to her, she started calling me ” Duka.. Vaaa ( Durga.. Come here)”. This is where I lost my image :(.. She was calling me “Amma”, i wanted her to say my name once, but now I wanted her to call me “amma”, but she keeps telling my name.